I figured relaunching the blog should start with calling out some bullshit. Enough is enough and I am tired of the hype train that is social media fitness!
Between the vegans, the other people who think vegetables poison you and those who think Snow White needs to be banned because Prince Charming kissed her without asking, the odds of finding some actionable and effective advice are small!
We hear a lot about people wanting to be independent women or that all girls should aspire to be ‘queens’ with huge transformational ideals, or how to be the strong alpha but the truth is most of it is social media fantasy.
What starts you on a journey to actually living a kick ass life is answering questions like these, which highlight just how much you are living according to other peoples’ rules.
How much of your day is yours?
How many things do you do because you it helps you progress or just makes you feel really good?
How many of your thoughts have come from personal experience or long-term trial and error, shaping unshakeable beliefs about how you want to do life?
How much of your energy comes from excitement about your own path and physical fitness that you have cultivated over time?
This isn’t woo-woo psychobabble, it’s a set of simple questions which most likely show that your life serves everyone but you.
You don’t need sex-life secrets, walking on your hands or Insta-Tiff’s latest booty program.
I am shocked by the levels of exhaustion seen in the average person. Living has been replaced by existing and the more tired you get, the more the will to work or try or fight for anything disappears. This seems to have got 10x worse since all of these lockdowns.
This is a small section of Chapter 2 in my new book.
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“We complain of having no time but we do have time. Daniel Kahneman tells us that “time use may be the determinant of wellbeing that is the most susceptible to improvement.” In other words, shifting things around in our diary, clearing space and saying no to more things can make the biggest improvements to your health, happiness and all that follows.
Think about yesterday. How much of that day was your own? It probably went something like this…
You got up and scrolled social media for ten minutes, immediately immersed in lots of other stories. You then put the news on while getting yourself/the kids ready or you surfed the internet while you had breakfast, again subjected to someone else’s opinion about the world and the way it works. You then got to work, where your boss gave you a pile of papers to sort out and you had forty emails full of demands for your time and energy. After work, you spent a bit of time running around after other people, then when you finally got some time to yourself, you sat down exhausted in front of Netflix…and watched another story, created by someone else.
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We have come to revere spontaneity as a personality trait, but we spend most of our time in a state of reactivity. One is internally driven in the moment, while the other is externally driven by fear about what will happen if we don’t do what we’re told when we’re told it.
When was the last time you acted on an original thought of your own?
How much of your average day is your creation?
How many of your beliefs were given to you rather than acquired through experience? How much of your behaviour is down to how you’ve been conditioned?
How often do you immediately obey phone notifications on demand?
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I look around and people are ALWAYS living according to what someone or something has told them to do in that moment. Their phone, their friend, their boss…even Amazon tells you what you should be buying.
If you don’t start making some changes and making some time for yourself, they might as well put someone else’s name on your gravestone.
The comforting thing about change is that unless some humans know something we don’t, you can’t go back and change the past or change the future. Even if you finally take matters into your own hands, you can only take care of right now and that doesn’t require changing much in any one go.
Social media has made us feel like there are some magic spells and potions to acquire before we can achieve great things but it’s bullshit! You need to start and you need to start today.
You have to remember that to start sailing a boat, you don’t have to have pulled the anchor right in – you just need to lift it a few inches off the ground.
That’s why I wrote The Secrets of Showing Up.
The most important part is lifting the anchor which isn’t that difficult
You don’t need that one big thing.
You don’t need that life changing moment.
You don’t need a magic potion that takes you from A to Z.
What you need in your health and fitness is what you have used in every single thing you ever succeeded at whether it is your job, bringing up kids or getting someone to fall in love with you.
Consistency. Not when it’s convenient, but every time there is a decision to make.
I often talk to clients about ‘domain dependence’.
This is what happens when someone understands the value or hard work, habits, consistency and a long-term outlook in one ‘domain’ in their life, but search for magic spells in others when deep-down they know they don’t exist.
You didn’t become a director in your company by demanding to go from Intern to ‘CEO’ in 12 weeks.
You didn’t expect to raise a child in 21 Days on the ‘Express Summer Plan’.
You didn’t ask if the builders could finish your house with 4 Minute Bricklaying techniques or use jelly for cement because it’s cheaper.
Why do you keep looking for these things in the gym?
Why do you keep looking to celebrities for advice?
I am the least sexy trainer in the world because I have to go face-to-face with most of the people I give advice to. I don’t throw stuff that glitters and sounds great then lose them in the interwebs.
If you did the following three things consistently for 3 weeks, you would most likely feel better (and look better) than you have in years.
- Go to bed by 10pm and sleep for 7-8 hours
- Drink 1.5 litres of water per day. 1-2 black coffees and no alcohol
- Don’t eat any processed foods but instead, at each meal, have a fist of protein, a palm full of carbs and as much veg as you like. Throw in a thumb full of fats.
- Do 30 minutes of movement every day (I don’t care what at this point, just do what you like but move and move hard!)
- Stay away from negativity whether it’s your own or someone else’s
- Go outside as much as you can
If you are sick, tired and fat right now and you did those for three weeks, you will see massive changes. MASSIVE.
But it’s not sexy, it doesn’t make for good social media videos and it won’t get TV time because it seems as exciting as watching an old man in a rocking chair.
Heard it all before? Cool story. But you didn’t DO it. Go on do it. Fully. No swapsies and no bullshit excuses.
These are two of our members who have just been consistently going about doing things that serve their mind and body for long enough. Funnily enough they can give much more to others now as well. Taking care of yourself is the least selfish thing you can do in the medium to long-term!
Try it. See how it goes. If you do it honestly and properly and nothing changes, I will personally pay for you to come and train with me for a month. Seriously. It’s that effective.
Keep an eye out for the book launch. I’ve laid out exactly how to do every single thing you ever need to be super fit, full of beans and maintain low body fat over a 12 week stepped process.
